If you’re anxiously trying to avoid divorce, then I’m really glad you found my website.  I urge you to read my story, how I went about preventing divorce – the ups, the downs, what didn’t work, and finally the only thing that showed me how to successfully stop a divorce.

Click here if you want to see what helped me prevent divorce

It felt like my husband and I were fighting every single day.  We eventually stopped talking, and even avoided each another.  He was even seeing someone else.  We talked about divorce.  What was worse, he didn’t seem to care about how to avoid divorce.

I did what I could.  Drew up a “what”s wrong” list and a “to do” one that I acted on as fast as I could.  I even begged him to help me prevent divorce.  I even suggested a trial separation thinking he would miss me.  Nothing worked, not even a counselor.  I was so desperate so I started searching for stopping divorce help online.  And that was how I came across the book “Save My Marriage Today”.

And what an eye-opener!  I honestly thought my efforts would stop divorce — they wouldn’t.  Chapter 4: 7 Mistakes To Avoid (Page 35) showed how rushing to correct things won’t work as feelings are involved.  Also, begging my husband will only stress him more.  Chapter 4, Mistake #6 shows that trial separations only allow a couple to adjust to single life, not a good thing!  And, why seeing a counselor doesn’t always work (Chapter 20:  Getting Help, Page 144).

Thanks to this book, I learned to do the right things.  In Chap 19: Getting Your Spouse To Fall Back In Love With You, I learned how positivity, and touch and words, can get Darren to fall for me again.

Click here to see the book I’m talking about

Chap 5: Combating Conflict explained the right mindset for disagreements and how to reach conclusions that satisfy us both.

What I didn’t like about the book – it’s long, 154+ pages.  With 11 bonus books such as “Marriages In Crisis” and “6 Reasons For Divorce; How To Stop Them”.  Took me ages.  I was so afraid we would get a divorce in the time it took to read.

Of course, it was important to really read what there was.  I honestly wouldn’t have learned to avoid divorce if it wasn’t for “Save My Marriage Today”.  I truly hope you found this little post useful.

Click here if you want to read more about the book “Save My Marriage Today”

In my last post, I wrote about my futile effort to stop my divorce.  I tried many, many things but they didn’t work.  Still, do you realize how important it is to know what doesn’t work?  Since doing what doesn’t work could make your marriage worse, you had better be aware of what you should NOT do, right?

I am so, so blessed because I finally found a really great resource that taught me the right things to do to avoid divorce.

Click here if you want to see the book that finally helped me avoid divorce

So, just in case it can help you, here are some of the things I tried that didn’t work, so you know what you shouldn’t do when trying to prevent divorce in your marriage.

1.  Figure out the wrong things with the marriage and make things right as rapidly as you can
I wrote out a “what’s wrong list” then did a “to do” list.  I then attempted to quickly act and hope to make everything will work out.

2.  Begged my husband Darren to deal with our marriage issues together
I didn’t think I should be the only one trying so I pestered him to take responsibility by being involved.

3.  Get help from relatives, friends and co-workers
I ask almost everyone I knew for advice.  It was mixed, at best — some were helpful, others gave stupid advice, a few suggested giving up and going ahead with divorce.

4.  Got counseled
I even did a counseling session with a family counselor but for some reason this didn’t work.  (I know why now after reading “Save My Marriage Today”.)

As I said earlier, none of these helped at all.  At the time, I couldn’t figure out why.  I knew though that unless I could find the right way to stop my divorce, the marriage was well and truly over and I was going to lose him.

Click here if you want to see the book that taught me the right way to stop my divorce

For the first few years of our marriage, I was really struggling to avoid divorce.

Our marriage was really in a bad shape. We argued every single day. The smallest things became the biggest fights. And the added pressure of our two demanding jobs didn’t help. To the point where getting a divorce was something we both started to think about. Back then, I cried myself to sleep more often than I ever want to remember.

What was worse was it felt like I was the only one trying to avoid divorce. Darren, my husband, wasn’t really trying. It was left to me to learn how to stop divorce.

I tried really hard, I did. I started with what I figured anyone in my shoes would do — I made a list of what I thought was wrong and what needed to be done to prevent divorce.

But I didn’t succeed. Darren and I just weren’t able to agree on anything. Worse, the more we talked about what was happening to the marriage, the more we blamed each other for its sorry state. We really weren’t get anywhere. And I had never felt so alone as I did then.