Hi, it’s Stephanie.
For the first few years of our marriage, I was really struggling to avoid divorce.
Our marriage was really in a bad shape. We argued every single day. The smallest things became the biggest fights. And the added pressure of our two demanding jobs didn’t help. To the point where getting a divorce was something we both started to think about. Back then, I cried myself to sleep more often than I ever want to remember.
What was worse was it felt like I was the only one trying to avoid divorce. Darren, my husband, wasn’t really trying. It was left to me to learn how to stop divorce.
I tried really hard, I did. I started with what I figured anyone in my shoes would do — I made a list of what I thought was wrong and what needed to be done to prevent divorce.
But I didn’t succeed. Darren and I just weren’t able to agree on anything. Worse, the more we talked about what was happening to the marriage, the more we blamed each other for its sorry state. We really weren’t get anywhere. And I had never felt so alone as I did then.